Monday, May 20, 2013

Aaargh (6w4d)

We have good news and bad news.  Or indeterminate news.  Or I think the nurse is a buffoon news.

Note that I did say we are 6w4d in the title, and as far as I know, that still holds true.  We measured 6w2d on the ultrasound, so we are right on track.  And we already thought we were a couple days behind based on betas, so truly right on top of expectations in that case.  We saw the gestational sac, the yolk sac, and the fetal pole.  At least the nurse said she did.  I basically saw a lot of spots on a screen :)

However, she said she didn't see the heartbeat.  She said it is so difficult to do at this stage, because you are basically trying to find it on something the size of a grain of rice.  Which totally makes sense to me. She really didn't even look that long, probably a few seconds, until she just stopped and told us to come back in a week to be sure.

Here's the weird thing though.  T and I came home and went on You Tube to see videos others posted of their ultrasounds around the same time.  We wondered how the heartbeat even looked like, because it did seem nearly impossible to see it based on what we were looking at.  In every video we saw, the nurse/tech would basically outline the gestational sac on the monitor and zoom in on the area that she outlined.  So ultimately the sac took up almost the whole screen, and the heartbeat would then be fairly obvious.  In almost all those videos, you definitely wouldn't be able to see it (not without a lot of effort) without zooming in.  But our nurse never zoomed in! I feel kind of cheated right now, like she didn't even do it right?  I've emailed a few gals I know that went through this at my clinic and are pregnant now.  I'd like to know their thoughts.  Maybe we really just are making a mountain out of a molehill, but it's like she didn't even try.

So we are back to "who knows".  I know a few things for certain:

(1) I am definitely more pregnant than I have ever been.
(2) Today was my worst day of nausea thus far.
(3) I'm still exhausted and cranky (which is probably coming through in my blog post!)
(4) I'm really frustrated that we still don't have a discernible answer.  And because of Memorial Day, it is really 8 days before we get back.

In the end, I know that there is nothing we can do about it.  If we wait, we should at least have more certainty of seeing something next week.  And we'll know to ask them to zoom in that time.

For all you lucky folks out there that had ultrasounds this early, what are your thoughts?  Were you able to see a heartbeat on the initial view when they stick the dildo cam in ya?


  1. Aaargh indeed! I'm so sorry for this disappointing experience. Quite honestly, the nurse does sound like a bit of a buffoon. I had my first ultrasound at 6w1d and I could not see the heartbeat on my own. However, it was detected by the u/s machine immediately (I don't think all machines do that though) and the NP was able to tell me it was there before it was ever visible to both of us. She then did zoom in on it and we were both able to see it beating away. It totally sounds like the nurse failed you on this. Is there any way you can call and reschedule your next u/s for Friday maybe? That way you don't have to wait through the weekend and can demand that they zoom in for a better look. (Also, for the record -- the type of machine they use will affect when the HB can be detected. The really fancy one at our fertility clinic could see it much sooner than a smaller, older one at our OB's office.)

  2. Hi from ICLW. Ugh that is so annoying. Hoping you get to hear the heartbeat soon.

  3. Hi there from ICLW. For me they didn't even look for the heartbeat(s) until 7 weeks, and even then they warned that it may be too early to see. I'm sorry that nurse was so flippant about something so important. I hope you can see that little flicker clearly at your next appointment!

  4. Hello from ICLW. I have my first doctor's appt today (currently (i think) 6 weeks 5 days) so I can let you know... although I think the normal for non-fertility patients is around 12 weeks. Take it on faith that your baby is growing happily inside of you.

    1. My doctor said to wait to do my dating and viability ultrasound until the 7th week because the fetal pole is much easier to see then. Hope that helps.


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