Thursday, September 5, 2013

Patience (5 weeks active)

Patience is bitter, but it's fruit is sweet.

A few weeks ago, I was sitting with some folks from work talking about families, babies, all the jazzy stuff.  Most people there knew our situation, but I wasn't really talking about it much.  One gal I don't know as well mentioned that she and her husband were trying to get pregnant, but it had been about 5 months and it was extremely difficult waiting that long.  She wasn't sure how much more patience she had.

I obviously had to bite my tongue, suppressing my innate desire to scoff at her 5 months, and one up her to our almost three years, 3 IVFs and 2ish miscarriages (still not sure what to call the events after the 2nd one).  But I thought about the position I'm in now, having such a hard time with the 6 weeks we've been waiting without a call about an adoption match.  I can't even imagine the response if I complained to the countless families that have been waiting much longer.  After likely going through infertility woes such as ours.  So I remembered that all waiting is misery while you are in it.  Whether it be 6 days, 6 weeks or 6 years.  The waiting sucks beyond belief.

I just remind myself that it will be so worth it in the end.  All the waiting will be forgotten, and we will not be able to remember life without our sweet son or daughter.

This and that:

  • There are some weird couples on our adoption site.  Some awesome ones too, but definitely ones I don't think I'd even want to know in real life, much less have parent my child.  But you know what?  Some of them have been matched since we've been active, so there is someone out there for everyone.

  • Our nursery is coming together.  It's a delicate balance between wanting to be somewhat prepared, spreading our costs over our wait, and to not end up with a finished nursery with no child in sight.  I fell in love with a quilt at Land of Nod awhile ago, and it looked like it was going to be in short supply. So with coupon codes in hand, I did buy a girly quilt and crib skirt.  I figured we'd need it someday and the room is certainly brightened with it!  This pictures actually don't give the size of the room justice.  It's a nice big room ready to fill with toys!

  • I am really trying to get back in shape after not working out for ages during infertility treatments.  And it is freaking hard.  I've always had a good metabolism and didn't have a hard time staying slim.  But my ass has grown to the size of Montana and something must be done before I split another pair of pants.  My issue is that my heart rate shoots up right away.  I'm hitting the 190s when I'm running a 12+ -min mile.  I guess I just need to work out according to my heart rate for awhile, but it's so defeating.  Any ideas??


  1. I think of you guys often C. I can't imagine the waiting and not knowing when you are going to get the call. It seems like it would be the longest "two week wait" you've had.

  2. I'm happy to see an update from you, I've been thinking about you guys a lot lately. I love how the nursery is coming and I can't wait until there's a picture of your son/daughter in that crib. I agree with JJ, this must be the longest wait you guys have had to endure; I'm constantly amazed at how strong you are <3


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